Secrets Of Happy Moms

Have you ever noticed how some Moms seem to be very contented and confident in their role as Mothers, and others seem chronically stressed and approaching burnout? Why are some Moms unflappable and able to keep their sense of humor, while others overreact to the slightest stressors in their day?

I’m currently observing and interviewing these happy Moms as I conduct research for an upcoming book. While all Moms are different, these women usually have several of the following traits in common.

1) They keep it simple.
I know one Mom who grocery shops every two weeks and buys the exact same thing every time to prepare the same menu of 14 dinners. Why does she do this? She’s picked the family’s favorite meals for her menu to save herself time and arguments at the dinner table. Anyone with kids knows they like to eat the same things over and over! This Mom has decided not to reinvent the wheel twice a month. This is just one example of keeping it simple.

2) They teach their kids to be independent.
This doesn’t mean they leave them to their own devices all day. But a smart Mom knows that a 2 year old can put a dish in the dishwasher, a 4 year old can prepare his own peanut butter and jelly sandwich, and a 7 year old can sweep a floor (albeit imperfectly!). Call it “outsourcing” for Moms.

3) They drop the SuperMom complex.
Not sweating the small stuff seems to be a common trait of happy Moms. They learn to pick their battles. Getting buckled into a car seat? Not negotiable. Pink paisley pants with the orange plaid shirt? Fashion creativity.

Happy Moms also realize that being an awesome Mom doesn’t mean being a perfect Mom. ‘Nuff said.

4) They can often be overheard repeating the phrase “This too shall pass”.
It doesn’t mean that bothersome behavior in kids should be overlooked, for discipline is a huge time saver in the end. It means that Moms realize that children are…well, uncivilized creatures, and that much uncivilized behavior will simply go away on its own as the child matures. Smart Moms are also keenly aware of their child’s development and don’t expect more of them than they are able to give.

5) Smart Moms take care of themselves.
They don’t blame the baby for their extra weight when the baby in question is potty trained! They put emphasis on good nutrition, avoiding too much by way of stimulants (caffeine, sugar), they get adequate rest, and daily exercise. They realize that you can’t pour from an empty bucket.

6) They live in the moment.
Happy Moms realize that the days are long but the years short. It’s not that they are impervious to stress, it’s that they have learned to lower their expectations and be in the moment when things get difficult. When your toddler is puking all over the house, this is not the time to reorganize the hall closet. A sick day then turns into a time to create sweet memories of hours spent reading and cuddling on the couch.

7) They don’t worry about what others think.
Whether it’s the disapproving glare from the old lady in the checkout line, the Mother in law who is convinced you’re starving the baby by breastfeeding, or the Pediatrician whose medical advice strays into parenting advice, happy Moms learn not to give too much weight to the opinions of those who don’t live in their home.

8) In other words, they trust their instincts.
Whether it’s taking the baby to bed with them so they can get more sleep or taking a bullied child out of public school, smart Moms know that they are the expert of their own babies.

9) Happy Moms have “something else”
It may be a part time home based business or a hobby like belly dancing. These Moms know that some day their babies will fly the coop, and they make sure they have a passion that will give them purpose when that happens.

Sign It With Your Signature Color – Tips On Finding The Color That Says You

Everyone has that one color they favor. Whether it is your preferred color that has been your favorite since you were little or just a color that looks fabulous with your hair color and skin tone, consider creating this shade your signature. Whatever the color, make sure that it looks well with your skin tone, eye color, and hair color before you make the decision to call this particular hue your signature color. No one wants a signature color you are unable to wear due to it clashing with your natural appearance. Also, know when you limit using your signature color, because it can quickly turn from clever and classy to quirky and tacky. It is not necessary for you to dress head to toe in your signature color. Instead, consider using your signature color in the following ways:

Creating your signature

Once you have determined what color will be used as your signature, work to incorporate this color into your wardrobe. Again, not everything in your closet needs to be of your specific signature hue. Consider using this color as an accent to the neutral tones that should dominate your closet, including black, white, ivory, brown, gray, and navy. Use your signature color in unique pops in all aspect of your wardrobe and your surroundings.

Use your signature color in your home to express your real self

In addition to using your signature color to accentuate your wardrobe, also use this favored color to accentuate you home. Whether you paint an accent wall in this great hue, choose a rug with your favorite color, use decorator pillows in your shade of choice, or incorporate towels of this color into your design, your signature color can work in your home the same way it can work in your wardrobe.

Accentuate with accessories – Accessorizing with personal flair

Consider using your signature color in a few poignant accessories incorporated into your wardrobe. Consider purchasing a brooch or faux flower corsage in your favorite shade to affix to your jacket lapel, sweater, or shirt. Look into purchasing a fantastic pair of shoes in your signature color as a unique pop that will benefit any wardrobe. Look to include a killer purse in your favorite hue that is sure to complement any item in your closet. Furthermore, use a scarf with your signature color or choose to incorporate a pretty ribbon into your hairstyle, serve as a belt, or even be used as a choker!

Shopping For The Right Bra Size

Shopping for a bra can be a long and painful task for many women. There are many bras to chose from and many women don’t know which style, and more importantly size, is right for them.

When shopping for a bra, finding the right size is vital; it is estimated that about 80% of women are wearing the wrong bra size. To make sure the bra you are buying is the correct size, watch for the following signs.

You should measure the width of your chest just below your breasts (on your ribs) before buying a bra. Take this number and add five inches to it. This will tell you what band size you should be trying on. For example, if you measure 31 inches around, you should be trying on a 36 sized bras. If you’re number ends up being odd, go to the next size up. If you are “plus sized”, you don’t have to add these five inches.

To find your correct cup size, have someone measure around the fullest part of your breasts. You should not wear a padded bra while doing this. Then take this number and subtract it from your rib measurement. This will tell you your cup size.

Negative difference – AA

1 inch – A
2 inch – B
3 inch – C
4 inch – D
5 inch – DD or E
6 inch – DDD or F
7 inch – DDDD or G

If your bra fits correctly, it should be snug around the middle, but still be able to fit one or two fingers under the band comfortably. If you can’t do this, the bra is too tight. If the band comes away from your body very easily or the band rides up your back, the bra is too big. If you are wearing an under wire bra, the wire should lay flat across your chest. Whereas if you are wearing a bra with no under wire, it should separate your breasts so it doesn’t look like you have one big boob. You should also look for the tightness of the bra on the breast. The breast should fill the cup perfectly. If your breast is lower than the cup, the cup is too big, but on the other hand, you don’t want to be spilling out of the cup either. If your breasts are popping out on the sides, top or bottom, the bra is too small. If the band feels fine, just go up a cup size. When shopping for a bra, try raising your arms over your head- the bra should stay in place and not lift off of your chest. If it does this, its too big.

If you follow these tips, your next shopping trip for bras should be more enjoyable. Try on all different styles of bras to see which kind suits you best. Also, never rush while shopping for bras. Pay attention to how they look and feel to make sure you buy the perfect fit.

How to Find a Great Janitorial Service For Your Home Or Business

One of the ways you can make your business stand out above the rest is by using a reputable janitorial service. Many businesses have a hard time finding the right cleaning solutions that provides them with the right cleaning services for a reasonable price. Many times they find themselves being overcharged and getting mediocre service. If you are looking for an exceptional cleaning company to handle all of you maintenance needs, there are a few precautions you can take to find a great janitorial company that works for you.

First, think about what services you expect a good janitorial service to provide for you. If you have a list or set of criteria that you need from a janitorial company and a list of things that you would like to be performed in addition to the necessary, you will be able to communicate exactly what you are expecting from the potential companies.

Next, you want to check and see if the janitorial services you are considering are licensed and bonded. The last thing you want to happen, is for you to be responsible for paying for a situation where an unlicensed contractor was injured while cleaning your business. A reputable cleaning service will insure and bond all of their workers, so if by chance one was injured on your premises, their insurance and bond will cover that janitorial employee, not you.

When you choose a janitorial service, you want to use a company that has ample experience. Using a company that has some experience will save you from any damage to your property and allow you to get more of the services you expect for a reasonable price. Janitorial business that have been in business for a while, are often more experienced and reliable than many startup companies.

Something that must be taken into consideration is a company’s references. Ask for a list of references and contact them. Ask them about the experience using the company and what their impressions were. What the references say about their experience will help you to determine whether or not this company is one you would like to do business with. If you run across a janitorial company that seems to be impressive and their references are shady or nonexistent, you will want to steer clear of that company.

Saving The Golden Goose: Where The True Gold Lies

I remember as a child being fascinated by a small aspect of a much larger fairy tale in Jack and the Beanstalk. I guess I have never really been enamored with conquest and really thought that Jack was a thief, but I loved the hen that laid the golden eggs.

The original source of course was Aesop, who told a tale with a moral core in The Goose that laid the golden egg. A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess a goose that laid a golden egg every day. For a while they were happy and lived well, but then they became impatient with how quickly they were accumulating their wealth. So they thought that if the goose could lay such a fine egg of gold, it must be lined with the precious metal. If they cut the goose open, they could get the gold all at once. Of course we all know what happened, the goose was just a goose and there was no gold inside.

For Aesop, the moral of the story was much wants more and loses all. I think there is also a hidden message, true gold comes from the process of creating.

You, my dear Diva, are a Golden Goose. Each day you lay multiple golden eggs throughout your life. They are often disguised as meals for loved ones, staying a little later at work to help your boss or co-workers, volunteering at the church or PTA, working on your cross-stitch or scrapbooking or on a passion of your heart. Everything that you do, each and every day, that brings a blessing to another is a golden egg. Like the goose in the story, you know how to lay the eggs. How well do you care for the goose?

If you are at all like me, and I think you are, we are very, very hard on the goose. Instead of recognizing all the golden eggs she has laid, and being thankful, we, like the greedy man and woman in the story, expect more, more, more. It is time that we honor the goose and forget about the eggs. If the goose is well cared for, the eggs will come, won’t they! Here are 7 lucky tips for the care and feeding of the golden goose:

1. Take one day off a week from work. The Sabbath is there for a reason,even God rested. “and on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested…” Genesis 2:3

2. Feather your own nest. I have the most wonderful bed linens, I feel like a princess every night when I go to bed. I have 2 feather mattresses and a silk, down comforter. I bought them at a discount store we have called, Tuesday Morning. Scour the town for one of your own. You will sink into luxury and know you are special, each and every night.

3. Nurture another golden goose. Identify a friend or a loved one running on fumes. Pick up her kids after school, take over the scout meeting for her, bring her a home-cooked dinner (just double your batch) and leave it on the step. Why do we have to wait until we are struck down with a catastrophic illness or event to reach out to each other? Let’s start a prevention program with our circle of women before the goose is cooked.

4. Feed your spirit daily. Find a quick, easy message that inspires you every day. One way with us is to sign up for the Daily Diva Word, it’s a free, quick pick me up that comes in your email.

5. Turn off the noise. Have a quiet time each day to shift gears. If you work outside of the home, plan just 15 minutes of alone time in your car before you pick the kids up, or rush to the store. Get a great CD or tape and play it, all alone in your car as you change states from employee to mom, wife or sane woman.

6. Become a Teacher. The only way that we ever learn anything new is from someone else. As you begin to value yourself as the Golden Goose you really are, you’ll begin to notice other women struggling to do it all. Share what you have learned with them and what helps you feel good about yourself.

7. Never Mistake the Egg as the Gift. We have become a society that values things more than people. It is often joked, tongue-in-cheek that you are only as good as your last accomplishment. That is the ultimate lie. We are not a collection of the things that we do, the sale that we make, or the goal that is conquered. You are the gift. You are the Golden Goose. The egg is just the last thing you created.

Wherever you are right now in your life, please stop for a moment and hear this truth. The true gold lies not in the outcome or accomplishment, it is in the process of creating. When you give yourself a little space and care for the golden goose inside you, you will once again lay a golden egg. Don’t worry, there is no where to go, you have everything you need for the blissful life you desire. You just forgot where the true gold lives—inside of you.

All the best,
Maureen

PS To help you remember the gold that you are, I’ve created some postcards for you to download. Two to keep and two to share with another Golden Goose that needs encouragement.

Top Rated Work From Home: Start An Internet Service Business

It is fascinating to perceive what prepared Internet advertising veterans are saying in regards to the top of the line telecommute in today’s economy. The vast majority of them are proposing begin an Internet benefit business in somehow.

Here is the thing that I mean by that.

1. Web advertisers will pay you to get things done for them that they don’t know how to do. There are such a large number of individuals coming web based searching for approaches to profit that you will never come up short on potential clients to get things done for.

These individuals are alluded to as Internet novices and they have a major expectation to absorb information in front of them. A hefty portion of them will never make sense of how to do Internet promoting so you could be there to deal with a great deal of the issues

2. Web advertisers will pay you to get things done for them that they don’t have sufficient energy to do. Many individuals are beginning Internet organizations with the possibility that they simply need to maintain the business instead of do the real work.

This makes a business opportunity for individuals to get things done for these Internet entrepreneurs. Beginning your own outsourcing business that individuals can outsource work to is an awesome approach to profit.

3. Disconnected organizations are coming web based searching for offer assistance. You can profit helping these disconnected entrepreneurs set up an online Internet nearness.

Regardless of the possibility that your own particular Internet promoting information is not that extraordinary you most likely close to the lion’s share of entrepreneurs who are searching for offer assistance. So what kind of administration organizations would we say we are discussing?

1. Doing Internet showcasing, for example, article composing, blogging, gathering posting, blog posting, et cetera is all things Internet organizations require. Anything that makes a backlink from another site to their Internet business site is something they require help with.

2. Setting up a site or blog. Indeed, even straightforward online journals are more than a few people need to attempt. It is assessed that more than 3 million private ventures in America still don’t have a site.

As individuals looked all the more utilizing their phone portable sites are turning into another amazing business sector to get into. These set up things are something you could begin as an administration business.

We could list numerous different things